How to Be Overjoyed at Work

Two weekends ago we went to the Big Apple Circus, which turned out to be a highly enjoyable spectacle. When they carted out the animals, something pretty special happened:  Jenny Vidbel, the animal trainer, appeared. She was fully in charge as she directed the performances of the dogs, ponies, horses and goats that pranced around the ring so delightfully. And we thought we were jaded New Yorkers!

Vidbel seemed overjoyed to be interacting with the furry beasts, smiling broadly and sometimes giggling. Once the formal program concluded, we had the rare opportunity to attend a meet-and-greet with the performers, and Vidbel was the star attraction.

She introduced her favorite horse, who bowed to the audience elegantly, and she talked about her work.  When the floor opened for questions, we jumped at the chance to inquire about the zeal she exudes in working with the animals.

“You seem overjoyed to be training these circus animals. How did you come into your work?” we asked.

Vidbel related how she’s a third-generation circus performer and animal trainer who grew up traveling with her grandparents and their animals on various circuses throughout the country. As she grew, so did her love of ponies. Over the years her herd has grown to twelve, including a beautiful Arabian stallion.

So the job was basically handed to her? Not so much.

A small reception followed the meet-and-greet, and we approached her to continue the thread about her career. She talked about how she wakes up thinking about the animals, and how her role in the Big Apple Circus doesn’t feel like a job. All her siblings, in fact, were introduced to circus animals at a tender age, yet she was the only one to feel an affinity to the animals.

We started thinking about the skills of the circus animal trainer. Among the characteristics of the successful trainer, we noted:

  • full presence in the moment, since she must be attuned to each one of the animals
  • relaxed demeanor, to facilitate improvised interactions with the furry creatures as needed
  • bundles of energy, for endurance in performing in front of large audiences.

It takes so much more, to be sure, and when you love what you’re doing, these requirements come naturally. In Vidbel’s case, it shows.

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Come Out at Work: With Two Jobs

The New York Times recently missed an opportunity to talk about bringing your whole self to work, as writer Michael R. Gordon wrote a piece about the work life of David Richardson, yet didn’t challenge the subject’s assertions that his two professions are mutually exclusive. Here’s the story.

Lt. Col. David Richardson in his own words is a “painter who fights.”  He’s an artist showing his colorful Expressionist paintings in a Georgetown gallery through the end of January, and in February he’ll be deployed to work with Afghan security forces. Unfortunately, he doesn’t view his disparate occupations–artist and Marine–as integrable, even though they’re both extensions of himself.

Directly from “Faithful to Two Worlds: The Marines and the Artistic Life”:

Colonel Richardson does acknowledge the considerable influence of his tours of duty in Asia on his painting. During a tour in South Korea, for example, he had small canvases made for him by a local carpenter, hauled them back to his studio on his bicycle, painted symbols on the individual squares and then clamped them together to form larger works, which comprise part of his “R Series” on display in Washington DC. The faint arrows, similar to the directional markings on a tactical map, are one of the rare carry-overs from his military world.

Interestingly, his mother is an artist who paints landscapes and flowers, and his father had been a Navy diver in World War II.

Now, the catalog for the show mentions his travels to Japan and Korea, but at his request never suggests that his military service took him there. As well, during the long lulls between patrols when he and his Marines were holed up with Iraqi troops in a dilapidated soap factory in Fallujah, he never hinted that he had a passion for art.

By his own account he has long led a double existence. “It’s been pretty compartmentalized,” he said about his two lives.”  “My father taught me to talk the talk. You don’t talk about art with the Marines, and you don’t talk about the Marines with artists.”

So it sure would be tidy to blame his father for limiting his worldview. Yet as an adult, he bears some responsibility to challenge what he’s been taught. At the same time, his gestalt smacks of the restrictions imposed by “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”

Clearly, these two distinct areas of work are related — within Colonel Richardson. Yet it’s difficult for him to work openly as a Marine and a painter. While we acknowledge that the stress of war impacts each troops’ state of mind in complicated ways, we have a hypothesis that if Col. Richardson were to come out in both worlds, his openness and mindfulness would make him a better artist and a better Marine.

Do you lead two or more distinct professional lives? What are the challenges you face in integrating them?

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Craig Ferguson Fully Revealed! [video]

We wanted to call this “Coming Out at Work: as an Alcoholic,” but which headline are you more likely to click among the Internet hoards?  Exactly.

Back in February 2007 the host of The Late Late Show came out as an alcoholic. In a heartfelt monologue, he described the plan he had to end his life by jumping off the Tower Bridge after a night of binge-drinking in London. A few months later, he entered rehab and at this point has been sober for nearly 19 years.

We love that Ferguson accesses a part of him self that could seem irrelevant to late night television, and uses it to comedic and humanitarian effect. He no longer wants to make fun of celebrities and others having a tough time in life.

For example, early in 2007 Britney Spears made big news by shaving her head, and he vows not to poke fun at her circumstances because he’s been there himself. He candidly explores the way his alcoholism informs how he relates to people, a significant component of his work as a talk show host.

His revelation brings him out as strong, grounded and more handsome.

Do you identify as an alcoholic? How does this part of you influence your work?

A Workplace Maneuver Only for the Strong of Heart

Today is Thanksgiving, and we’re grateful for the pioneers of bringing your whole self to work who’ve come before us. One such luminary is Joycelyn Elders, the former United States Surgeon General.

Back in 1994 a furor erupted over her response to a question about HIV and AIDS education. She said since masturbation is part of human sexuality, perhaps it should be taught in school. This sentiment led to her forced resignation as Surgeon General. What a high price to pay for being forthright and responsible as a doctor and health educator.

We know how hard it can be to remain true to what you believe. In doing so, Dr. Elders lost her job, yet she kept her self.

The publicity she garnered for being outspoken follows her today. She speaks across the country on public health issues, so she enjoys a national platform from which to share her wisdom and expertise.

Does it pay to be open about a strongly held opinion, when some people may be angered by it? In an interview with CNN in 2005 Elders stated,

“If I had to do it all over again today, I would do it the same way. I felt I did it right the first time.”

So, we’d say yes.

Have you paid a dear price for holding steadfast to your conviction(s)?

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Cindy McCain Waffles, Conceals Self

It takes a certain strength and conviction to express yourself in direct opposition to your high-powered spouse. Yet strength and conviction doesn’t seem to be what Cindy McCain has.

Just as we were about to describe Cindy McCain’s engagement of her whole self at work as she took a clear stand against “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”–a policy her husband John McCain supports–see video above, she logged into her Twitter and reclaimed her privilege as a U.S. Senator’s wife.  She tweeted, “I fully support the NOH8 campaign and all it stands for and am proud to be a part of it. But I stand by my husband’s stance on DADT.”

How possible is it to support one and simultaneously stand by the other?  We wonder what she truly believes.

She makes being forthright look very difficult. Well, because it is.

Have you contradicted yourself at work? What happened?

How to Show a Little Love

We know that Courtney Love appears to thrive as a media spectacle, and that her artistry is unparalleled.

Eric Wilson spent some time with her recently, chronicling the interdependence of Love’s stardom with the fashion world. As usual, she’s aware of her self in the world, a little messy, and very charming.

At the end of the many exchanges between Wilson and Love, she texts him regarding their experience as subject and interviewer.  Her final message is:

“I trust you understand that our hearts can take us all to dark and ill timed places. Warmly, Courtney. xx.”

Her candor is engaging, totally disarming, and comes from a place of love, so to speak. What could the world of work be like if we all felt free to share our intimate thoughts on the work we’re doing?

We think it’s worth striving for, so we can find out.

Have you shown love at work? What resulted?

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Aziz Ansari Reveals Some of Himself

Comic Aziz Ansari, of Raaaaaaandy! and “Parks and Recreation” fame, is originally from South Carolina and his parents emigrated to the U.S. from southern India. The way Ansari accesses his ethnic background in his work was recently explored in a New Yorker profile, wherein he receives the star treatment by staff writer Kelefa Sanneh:

Ansari has become one of this country’s most popular young comedians while generally declining to highlight his Indian-American identity. It can’t be a coincidence, though, that many of Ansari’s favorite subjects–his heroes, and therefore, his targets–are African American. His jokes and stories about Black celebrities allow him to acknowledge his own status as an anomaly in the mainy white world of alt comedy.

One of his most reliable new routines is a great story about overhearing the rapper 50 Cent ordering a grapefruit soda in a restaurant. When it arrives, 50 Cent says, “Why isn’t this purple?” And from this Ansari draws a conclusion –“50 Cent has no idea what a grapefruit is!”

While not directly working with his ethnic identity, he’s in tune with this part of himself and incorporates it into his stand-up routine. To give credit where it’s due, we can say he brings a lot of himself to work.

To what extent do you incorporate your ethnicity into your work?